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You Don't Know How it Feels

From 11 member  reviews
Members say: Thought-provoking, Relevant, Intense, Edgy, Absorbing

About the show

A new drama which offers an honest and daring look at a student who is sexually assaulted by her teacher. Part of the 2018 Dream Up Festival. More…

Dena and her friends love Mr. McCoe, he is the coolest. After Dena’s sister dies, he listens, helps her bring up her grades and prepare to try out for the basketball team. He then manipulates the power dynamic so that her family, friends, teachers, and school administration are not aware of the dark turn their relationship takes. A forthright and caring exploration of a young woman’s story reminding us how important it is to pay attention.

This play contains sexual violence, assault and abuse. It is not suitable for children under the age of sixteen.

Member Reviews (11)


Thought-provoking, Relevant, Intense, Edgy, Absorbing
Avg Score

Absorbing, Thought-provoking, Intense, Relevant, Important

See it if You want to support theatre that examines important and relevant issues, in this case sexual abuse.

Don't see it if You are looking for a nuanced, and dramaturgically sound treatment of sexual abuse between an authority figure and a child.

Also "the play you're going to be watching tonight is a realistic look at w... Read more Read less

Cliched, Confusing, Disappointing, Excruciating

See it if The subject of sexual abuse on a high school level is weighing down the actors who are a touch too green behind the ears for that endeavor.

Don't see it if Poor sound editing and writing doesn't help this production in a NON-AIRCONDITIONED theater on a hot summer night in New York City.

Repetitive, Upsetting, Well acted, Ambitious, Cliched

See it if you’re wondering how power and abuse get interconnected; you want to see what kinds of clues to look for when someone is being abused

Don't see it if heavy-handed, repetitive scripting irks you; loud sounds and long pauses bother you; odd sound and light design takes you out of the story

Also It’s unfortunate that the script is too long and too on the nose since... Read more Read less

Thought-provoking, And interesting

See it if You want to see a new work on a difficult subject

Don't see it if in your face subject about rape and pedophiles will upset you

Also the dialog is heavy and repetitive and needs editing but the message i... Read more Read less

Clever, Great acting, Intense, Relevant, Edgy

See it if The performances by the lead actors were outstanding and great depth was brought out in their performances. I would recommend this show!

Don't see it if If you are uncomfortable with the subject of rape, sexual assault, and under aged sex.

Relevant, Edgy, Thought-provoking, Must see, Great writing

See it if You are interested in seeing ones truthful and horrifying tale of sexual abuse and how power perceived can be debilitating!

Don't see it if You can't handle a very graphic telling of sexual abuse. Some scenes are not easy to watch, but very necessary in the telling of this story!

Absorbing, Edgy, Thought-provoking

See it if you are not afraid to be confronted by the dangers of sexual abuse in schools.

Don't see it if you want a variety of perspectives on this topic-this tells one character's story, not several.

Also "You Don't Know How it Feels" is a good, solid show that tells the sto... Read more Read less

Ambitious, Clever, Great acting, Great writing, Intense

See it if Want to see a well-written play of a student who experiences sexual abuse and loss of self and see the antagonist gets his karma.

Don't see it if you cannot handle the truth behind this depiction of this one student's story.

Also Here's the breakdown. the actors all did a stellar job with their line... Read more Read less

Intense, Thought-provoking, Relevant

See it if Very raw outlook on sexual abuse particularly focusing on abuse in school systems and the abuse of power that has become a major issue

Don't see it if You have a weak stomach to graphic material such as physical and sexual abuse, it is very raw and realistic. Hits home.

Absorbing, Profound, Relevant, Thought-provoking, Riveting

See it if You can handle seeing the realistic depiction of sexual abuse in the school system, and the abuse of power that is happening in classrooms.

Don't see it if You have a weak stomach; or a small, weak mind.

Ambitious, Excruciating, Intense, Slow, Thought-provoking

See it if You are not afraid to examine your own feelings about an incredibly difficult topic. You are interested in watching new works grow.

Don't see it if You are looking for something fast paced, or easy to watch. This is not a therapy session and it only tells one story about abuse.

Also Festivals are a difficult way to present a full-length piece, this one... Read more Read less

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